Queer, trans* writer and creative ‘Jay of all trades’. They/them. Eating disorder survivor, fat activist, sex-positive ace. Oh, and a nerdy cat person!

A selfie of a young nonbinary person wearing a suit and tie, smiling.
A selfie of a young nonbinary person wearing a suit and tie, smiling.
A formal selfie of Jay, since they have yet to get headshots taken.

Where I am right now


Seeing the world from a child’s perspective has been truly eye-opening.

Foto von The Craft Wonder von Pexels.

1. Your desires matter.

2. Trust your gut.


The content will surprise you.

Photo by JOSHUA COLEMAN on Unsplash.


The clock is ticking, but I won’t try to stop the handle.

Image by Free-Photos from Pixabay.


He went from acquaintance, to friend, to brother in the space of a year. And within a handful of weeks, we became something worse than strangers.

Foto von Alex Green von Pexels.


And what it can teach anyone, regardless of how vanilla you are.

Photo by Deon Black on LetsTalkSex.


After eight years of severe bulimia, I have a lot to learn about a healthy relationship with food.

Photo by Tim Mossholder via Pexels.


Here’s what sharing the truth has taught me about the role of age in romance.

Image by Pexels from Pixabay.


Seeing myself in pictures is difficult given my body image issues. So I booked a session with an erotic photographer.

Jay Pendragon, photographed by Marcel Wagner/Fotostyle Berlin.


I had heard about scat play before but never thought I’d be involved.

Photo by Alexas_Photos on Pixabay.

Jay Pendragon

Jay is a trans*, queer screenwriter, writer, activist and fan. Currently in eating disorder recovery. They/them. https://jaypendragon.com

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